I once heard a story of a woman who wanted to know how many negative thoughts she had in a day. So she took a clicking counter and clicked every time she thought something negatively. She found that she had hundreds of negative thoughts in one day. By the end of the day, she wasn’t feeling so great about herself. Before she went to bed she decided that thinking about her negative thoughts may have contributed to her negative thoughts.
The next day she pulled out her clicker again and this time she counted every positive thought she had. What she discovered was that when she thought positively she had more positive thoughts. She thought of over 1,000 positive thoughts that day.
What does this have to do with living a happy life? I’ll tell you, pessimism lends to depression. The more positive your thinking is, the happier you will be. It’s all fine and good for me to say this, but can it really be put into action? I think it can.
Changing a Negative Thought to a Positive One
It’s easy to think negatively about those surrounding us, especially those close to us. I can’t count how many times I have thought the phrase “If only so-and-so would do this, it would make my life easier.” That is a negative thought. So how can we change that negativity into something positive that will make us happier.
First, if the situation is out of our control, we need to recognize that. Instead of saying “I wish my boss would let me have such-and-such project” we can say “I’m going to do my best with what I have so my boss will see the value in giving me such-and-such project” Then you are focusing on what is in your control and keeping your attitude up-beat. If you do this, your boss will notice.
Next, if there is something you can do to change the situation, do it. Instead of waiting around for your spouse, or mother, or friend to apologize go to them with an apologue first. Even if you are not in the wrong. It’s never good to have bad blood between you and someone close to you. Holding on to the negative feelings will only make you more bitter, and your relationship with that person may never be repaired. If you take the first step, chances are the other party will follow suit.
Last, when you feel positive, project that positivity to those around you. Have you ever received a compliment from a random stranger? Didn’t it make you feel good? Think about your happy times, then share that with others. Go ahead and compliment someone you don’t really know. Maybe even try complimenting someone you don’t like. The more positivity you spread the more people will enjoy being around you. No one likes to surround themselves with people who are constant downers and critics. Be the type of person you would like to be surrounded by.
The fact remains that positivity can influence your life for good. It will make you happier and lead you on a path to success. I know that I find the happiest people to be the most successful ones, in my eyes. Never stop trying to be a better person.